*Thanks to my anal family members I get to look less like an idiot now! The word is “throes,” not “throws,” and I should have known that. I guess when you’re in the dying throes of being sick it’s hard to remember such things. Thanks!
First of all, there’s the words. You have a word for “cold” (as in the thing you catch, not as in the temperature), and you have a word for “sick.” “Sick” is a very strong word. I heard from one of the other kids over here that they once told their host parents they were “sick” rather than they had caught a “cold,” and they host parents were like, “Well, then we have to get you to the doctor!” And created a big scene. In America, you tell someone you’re sick, and they’re like, “Oh that sucks,” because being sick just means you don’t feel well, and it’s due to something beyond normal fatigue or whatever. In Japan, it seems, “sick” is what justifies missing school/work, etc…
Second, they go to the doctor (actually, everything is just a hospital here, they just have lots of them and they each specialize in different things) for pretty much anything. They would probably go to the doctor for a cold, and the doctors, I hear, will give you drugs for it. I’d rather not drop $20 on a bum doctor’s visit and drugs that I don’t actually need, so I’ve just been trying to play the whole thing pretty low-key.
Third, apparently whenever someone gets sick here, they get a fever. I’m not sure why, but it seems to be assumed. I used the word for “cold” with my host parents here, and a little while later, when I was up to get some food (being sick doesn’t mean you don’t want to eat, I mean… jeez!) my host father was like, “Has your fever gone down at all?” And I’m like, “Um… fever?” I never said anything about a fever. And besides, how would I know? Did YOU guys give me a thermometer? No? What?
I think that the term may have some kind of usage whereby you talk about things like “feeling” hot… or cold… But I’m really not sure, and I don’t much care to know if it does. I’m sick, and I rather like the words that we have in America, where “fever” means your body’s temperature is elevated to generally around or above 100ªF, thanks. I’d rather not have to play a game of “What do YOU think this means?” right now, because that takes energy, and well… screw that.
I also had a girl in class ask me if I had a fever, too, the other day ‘cause I was really tired (it was also a morning class, but the cold was starting to get underway) and I’d told her I think I was getting a cold. Here’s something about my physiology: I don’t get fevers. If I did, then I probably SHOULD go see a doctor, because it means I’m about to die. My body temperature never elevates over about 99.6. I know. I remember being a child and trying to convince my mom to let me stay home from school, and I could never QUITE make the cutoff of 100˚F. It made me very sad, and also pretty miserable just in class during the day.
They also have this weird idea here that if you’re ill, but you feel like getting up, then you’re a) getting better, or b) need to go lie back down. Sick people shouldn’t do ANYTHING. Now, what I generally remember from my health class back in high school was something along the lines of, “Even if you’re sick, but you feel like going out for a jog, or playing basketball, or whatever, then you should go ahead and do it.” Something about getting the blood flowing and making your body work more, which can help it to flush out the affected areas, I think. Okay, you don’t want to push yourself like WAY too hard (which is kind of what I did yesterday… >.>) but it’s not bad to be active even if you’re sick. So, Mom, which idea is best, medically speaking? I’m going to trust the western nurse’s perspective on this, because while Japan has thousands of years of traditions dealing with disease, the west has done the most EMPIRICAL study of disease and its effect on the human body, etc, to help weed out the more unnecessary wives’ tales about dealing with a cold.
Oh, and that’s another thing. In America, when you have a cold, even your best friends will be like, “That sucks, hope you get better soon,” and then they’ll stay the hell away from you, because they don’t want to catch it. Here, I’ve found (especially among girls – maybe it means something I’m missing?) that those who are your better friends won’t stay away from you, but will instead keep closer tabs on you, and ask if you’re okay, and work to try and help you feel better. Not that there’s really a lot you can do, but people don’t seem to be as affected by the fact that you’re sick and they MIGHT CATCH IT from you. It’s not a universal thing, but one I plan to adopt in the future amongst my friends and family. If I’m gonna get sick, I’m gonna get sick. Period. Why ruin time with someone who’s currently suffering but the time could be enjoyed just because you’re afraid you might get it, too?
AREN’T WE ALL STILL PEOPLE?!?
The answer is “yes.” ^_^
Except for one guy I know. He claims not to be a ‘people.’